Use Your Words

IMG_1654There’s a popular phrase amongst parents of preschool and elementary aged children: “Use your words”, they say, when their child is moody, whining, or struggling to express their juvenile needs or worries.  This simple phrase sends somewhat of an electric shock to the brain of the child which almost always results in the kid quickly straightening up and attempting to verbalize their emotions.

After having somewhat of an unpleasant confrontation with a fellow co-worker involving her rolling her eyes and me exiting the room, I had a thought:

What if adults coined the phrased “Use your words” when dealing with other adults?

Why is this lesson only good for elementary aged children, when adults are the ones that struggle the most with communicating their needs and wants?

What if the physical emotion that we were acting out quickly turned to words filled with less emotion but more truth?


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You are the Master of Your Fate!!


It is almost the end of the first quarter of 2018.  January was the month of “new year, new me”, New Year’s Resolutions, just saying ‘No’ to sweets, tobacco, and just saying ‘Yes’ to exercising, eating right and on and on.  January was also the month of restructuringdownsizingrole eliminationsdisplacedlaid off and whatever other corporate jargon companies use nowadays to dismantle the balance of human lives.  I’ve been seeing a lot of posts over the past few months related to mass layoffs and the fear of not knowing if you might be next up on the plank.

In 2001, I was an intern in the IT department of a pretty well-known company.  One morning just a few weeks into my internship, I was greeted with the word restructure.  I went throughout my day as normal but I started to see boxes being carried around, office chairs moving from cubicle to cubicle, folks huddled in corners and others folks in the breakroom with concerned looks and a few tears in their eyes. I didn’t know what restructure in the corporate context meant but nothing about it sounded fun.

By the end of the week, several desks were empty. I was sharing a desk with a team member who was out on leave. He was displaced by the restructure so his desk became mine for the remainder of the summer.  After a few weeks the huddles dissolved just as quickly as they had formed and it was business as usual.  By the end of the summer, I had forgotten about those folks that were once there but then gone. I did wonder what came of them but based on the restructure conversation that my then manager had with the other interns and I, the folks would be setup with workforce agencies and could even apply for other positions within the company not to mention they would be compensated for some of the weeks they would be without employment. Didn’t sound bad at all.

It has been a little over a year since I lived through my restructure and I am in a reflective mood. I was never afraid of losing my job. I was very competent in my role as a Program Manager and I knew that I could walk into any company and kick ass.  This isn’t me being cocky this is all confidence because I know my worth. It took a while for me to really feel comfortable at a company and in a role so much so that I wouldn’t feel the least bit of shade if an employer decided to downsize.  The one thing that I felt and still feel is disappointment with how the leaders of my last company handled the communication and professionalism surrounding the job eliminations of roles within the company.  During my exit interview, I shared a letter with the HR representative explaining my displeasure.  Checkmate!

When decisions are made in large rooms with people in suits there is no way for them to understand the crippling affect their decisions have on their employees.  Babies are still being born, life threatening diseases are still being diagnosed, college tuitions have to paid, and families need roofs over their heads.

Yes, life goes on, but lives are impacted.

Layoffs are sometimes the last resort for companies but no matter the initial disturbance that led to the decision, this type of situation should be handled with care. I think the company that introduced me to restructuring did an okay job of handling such an uncomfortable situation, however, my last company…not so much.

My advice to those of you who have recently found yourself without a job or those of you who are waiting to hear your fate:  Remember that God placed you in your particular situation for a reason during this season.

Learn from it.

Grow from it.

Don’t get stuck.

Remember that you are enough.

Walk in confidence knowing that God is simply taking you on a detour. Enjoy the scenic route and when you’re done get back to work!

Doors may be locked.  Windows may be boarded up.  Don’t become fearful, just grab a sledgehammer and knock down a damn wall. Create your own path and when you’re done bring a bunch of Fierce folks with you!

You are the master of your fate. You are the captain of your soul.


Color Outside of the Lines

In kindergarten we were told to color within the lines. It was like some invisible judges were standing over our shoulders watching every stroke of our crayons and if we happen to veer too far right or too far left this unforgivable act would follow us until high school.

And that’s where it all began.

Our fascination with order, timing, perfection, being the best, and doing the best. The world set the rules and we followed unknowingly into the land of the “majority.” The only thing that remained of our uniqueness was the birthmarks that tagged our faces, feet, butts, backs, and hands and even those were starting to look like the kid next to us.

Somewhere along the way we developed a competitive appetite to score higher, run faster, and excel far beyond those around us. Making an “A” was more important than making friends. Being trendy was more important than being a trendsetter. Fitting in was more important than standing out. We were afraid to embrace our natural style (whatever that was) for fear that our quirkiness would ruin our chance at “cool points” and so we did what we had to do to make waves but just enough to stay within the qualifications of our cookie cutter pedigree.

What am I saying?

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The Fierce Female’s Guide To College Life and Beyond Is A Game Changer For Young Women

book cover

Thinking back to over a decade ago, I can remember riding an emotional rollercoaster post high school graduation.  It was time for me to leave the comfort of my small hometown to begin a new life as a Freshman at Grambling State University.  When it’s your time to grow up, there’s no looking back and there’s not much room for error.  Like many of us, I received parting advice from my mentors, but I could have avoided many of my life’s pitfalls if someone had just kept it 100% real with me from the start.  The book, “The Fierce Female’s Guide to College Life and Beyond” is a game changer.  It resonates with me because it was written by my fellow Grambling State University alumna, C.A.C.H.

The Fierce Female’s Guide to College Life and Beyond gives real-life insight on college life and it also extends to help young women create a roadmap that will help them build purposeful lives afterward.   She submits to her own transparency to share stories from her time of matriculation by revealing lessons that young women simply cannot learn in a textbook.

The book touches on prayer, knowing when to ask for help, converting mistakes into lessons learned, being punctual, present and prepared, building healthy relationships, embracing individuality, setting goals, effective communication, budgeting, and overall health.

Christy-Ann C. Hamlin “C.A.C.H.” a published writer, author, and motivational speaker from Grambling, Louisiana.  She holds a BS in Computer Information Systems and an MBA from Webster University. Although writing is her true passion, mentorship is her purpose. She is committed helping others uncover and reach extraordinary goals.  According to C.A.C.H, the undergraduate years shape and mold individuals into the people (mothers, executives, entrepreneurs) that they will become.  C.A.C.H. is further dedicated to inspiring, uplifting, and motivating other women to reach their full potential.

If you have a daughter in college or a high-school senior headed to college, she needs a copy of this book!



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​Sometimes, The Dream Chooses Us:  Meet Dr. Nwando Okafor, Leading Woman in Emergency Medicine

What was once child’s play for Dr. Nwando Okafor became a fast reality. She’s gratefully enjoying the daily actualization of the dream career that she imagined having as a little girl growing up in Enugu, Nigeria.  As a child, Dr. Nwando found excitement in playing “doctor” with her dolls by caring for them with items from the First Aid kit that she received as a gift on her 7th birthday. The gift was very important to her.  By tradition, Nigerian families instill strong accountabilities and indigenous values in their children. She’s always known that she would become a doctor; there were no other career options available in her opinion.

Life changed dramatically for her at 15 when her family migrated to the United States. After receiving her diploma from Gardena High School,  Dr. Nwando Okafor graduated, Cum Laude with a BS in Biology from the University of California, Riverside and she subsequently received her MD from UCLA.  She began her medical career working in residency at The University of Chicago Medicine in the ER Department.

Currently, Dr. Okafor is a practicing Emergency Medicine Physician and Chief Medical Officer based in Corpus Christi, Texas.  She’s also committed to the philanthropic work of World Health Advocate, a nonprofit organization that she co-founded with her sister, Dr. Adaeze Okafor-Nwosu. The two are dedicated to closing the healthcare gap among countries worldwide. They travel abroad to Nigeria, Haiti and other poverty-stricken countries to administer free healthcare services.

Medical Mission in Isuoffia, Nigeria
Dr. Okafor with mission trip volunteers

Dr. Okafor has a special passion for caring for others.  Her mission in life is to “live, learn, give back, and love.” “I am inspired by my family, humble past and I keep my focus through my belief in God.”  

In her free time, Dr. Okafor seizes the opportunity to enjoy her family.  She lends her life experiences through mentorship and encouragement for other young women and men. Like Dr. Nwando Okafor on Facebook! 

The Boss Awards Was A Celebration of Entrepreneurial Excellence

On BeatonOn Sunday, January 15, 2018, The Legendary Boss, Slim Thug and his team at Boss Life Foundation hosted kicked off the year a celebration of entrepreneurial excellence.

The evening began with a celeb-packed  red carpet led by Lemon-Lime Light Media which featured special guests Slim Thug, LisaRaye McCoy, Floyd Mayweather Jr., Houston Texans Player Deshaun Watson, Original Houston Texans Player Chester Pitts, Comedian Ali Siddiq, Aventer Gray of Lakewood Church, Television Personality Miss Mykie, and honorees Bun B, Tillman Fertitta, & Daymond John and many  more.

The Boss Life Foundation presented Boss Awards to those who have excelled in their industries. Tillman Fertitta (the owner of the Houston Rockets, and CEO of Landry’s Inc. and The Golden Nugget Casinos), Daymond John (Businessman and TV personality on ABC’s Shark Tank), Bun B (Houston Rapper & Philanthropist), Madd Hatta of 97.9 The Box, and Industrial Welding Academy, were all honored for their leadership and success. “The acceptance speeches of the night definitely left lasting impressions on attendee’s hearts. Jimbo and J Mac, from 97.9 The Box, kept their speech entertaining with an impromptu freestyle.” Source-Lemon-Lime Light Media

About The BossLife Foundation:

The BossLife Foundation (BLF) is a 501 (c) (3) non-profit organization founded in 2015 to focus greater attention on research and educating the specifically in low-income communities. BLF is also dedicated to educational programs and mentoring the youth.

Deshaun Watson

Houston Texans Quarterback Deshaun Watson

Floyd Mayweather and Tillman Fertitta

Billion Dollar Buyer, Tillman Fertitta and World Boxing Champion Floyd Mayweather

KY Myer and KG

Ky Myer of Kollective Media and KG Smooth, Majic 102.1 Radio Personality

Lisa Raye

Lisa Raye McCoy

Miss Mykie

Miss Mykie

Rockets Owner Tillman Fertitta with Family

Tillman Fertitta and family


Boss Life Entertainment and Boss Life Foundation

Rodney Demery Shares His Story and an Insightful Perspective on Race Relations With KG Smooth of Houston’s 97.9 The Box

During his recent visit to Houston, Rodney Demery stopped by 97.9 The Box for a quick chat with KG Smooth to speak on the station’s Access Houston program.
The two discussed domestic violence awareness month, the forthcoming second season of Murder Chose Me on Investigation Discovery, his books and they delved into the issues of race relations in our current political climate. Watch the video to hear the full interview.



The Women Investors Network “Lunch and Learn Series” Was A Powerful Gathering of Minds


“When powerful women connect, there’s nothing strong enough to stop them from “WINNING”. -JNS

Women Investors Network Founder, DJ Johnson had a vision to bring women together to uplift, encourage and inspire them to #WIN. DJ has managed to thrive within the real estate business as an investor; a field traditionally dominated by males.  The Lunch and Learn Series was a pure manifestation of her vision. The occasion was coordinated by La’Torria Lemon of Lemon Lime Light Media.  It was liberating to be among a group of professional women who share great ambition and to learn key strategies from a group of profound women entrepreneurs who are on top of their game in their respected fields.

The panel was led by keynote speakers: Cheryl Creuzot, an award-winning financial planner, Shenoah Grove, vice president of Love American Homes and WIN’s founder; DJ Johnson.  The ladies answered questions and led discussions which detailed their own personal experiences while on the road to success.

This segment of the “WIN” Lunch and Learn series was sponsored by Mercedes-Benz of Houston Greenway, Longhorn Investments, One Nation Title, Prosperity Real Estate Group, Quest IRA, KYND Radio 1520, Streamline Funding, Xpert Credit Repair, and the J. Gannon Helstowski Law Firm.

I captured a few images and video clips to share with you! Until next post….❤ JNS

BET’s Black Girls Rock Creative Music Director Kim Burse Shares Her Story- “On The Line” with Jennifer N. Simpson

Kim Burse

I’m excited to embark on new beginnings in the world of JNoS PR. I present the first production of my interview segment; #OnTheLine with Jennifer L. Simpson. I had the opportunity to chat with Creative Director To The Stars, the one and only Ms. Kim Burse!

Although her vision dwells behind from the scenes, her creativity thrives in the spotlight. Kim Burse is responsible for a number of unforgettable televised music performances by artist such as Beyoncé, Destiny’s Child, Monica, Ciara, Jamie Foxx…the list goes on, but her tenure in the music industry is even more impressive.

Kim is most known for her position as creative music director for BET’s Black Girls Rock and the arrangement of other major award show performances. The awesomeness doesn’t cease there; She’s also instrumental to the ongoing success of Jennifer Lopez’s “All I Have Las Vegas Residency.”

I’ve known Kim for a little while now. It was an absolute honor to have her to take time out of her hectic schedule to share this amazing story with me!

Take a look at her biography and resume for the full effect. For now, here’s a quick look inside the career of Creative Music Director Kim Burse.

Dr. Kanisha L. Hall Reveals The All-Encompassing Guide To Personal Sexual Empowerment

Dr. Kanisha L. Hall

“Sex After” Author and Board Certified Physician Dr. Kanisha L. Hall says that as women we are responsible for creating our own sexual fulfillment. “New beginnings are sometimes created, while being thrust upon in other instances. “Sex After” shows audience members how to adjust to life changes that may impede sexual pleasure, by giving proven solutions to create and restore sexual fulfillment throughout the inevitable changes of life.”

Dr. KaNisha L. Hall is a native of Shreveport, Louisiana. She is the proud mother of one beautiful daughter, Ava Grace. Her scholarly activities includes a Bachelor of Science (B.S.) in Chemistry, Post-Baccalaureate Certificate, International fellowship in Cytology at Kitasato University in Japan, and Doctorate of Medicine (M.D.) from Howard University. Her family calls her a perpetual student. While maintaining her clinical practice of Anesthesiology in South Louisiana she managed to obtain a Master of Art (M.A.) in Counseling with a focus in the area of sexuality counseling.


Her desire to promote a comprehensive clinical and sexual health to the masses has propelled her to recent notoriety. This hardworking musician, scientist, physician, counselor, and mother multitasks her medical practice and speaking engagements. She takes pride in speaking to women about the importance of embracing their sexuality.

Dr. Kanisha L Hall at the Ultimate Women's Conference

In addition to her mission to empower women, Dr. Hall has traveled the country to teach professionals effective strategies.  She takes a more holistic approach to wellness practiced providing instruction on several ways to approach sexual diversity, improve awareness, and promote overall health. She also offers workshops designed to train other physicians, allied healthcare professionals, and mental health practitioners. She extends her knowledge in a classroom setting to teach methods that will allow doctors to properly incorporate sexual health into their practices.  As if all of that is not enough…

The multi-faceted doctor has found time to develop her own hair and skin care lines, and a collaborative venture offering sexual health devices and accessories. She takes her mission to enlighten and empower women very seriously. It is her desire to give them unique tools that will help them fulfill their wildest dreams and to be confident in themselves.  See below..


Dr. Kanisha Hall is available for booking and speaking engagements and training sessions. She offers 4 main professional speaking points:

1.“Sex After…”

2.“Explosions:” In general, many women have resigned themselves to a reality that sex just won’t be a consistently pleasurable entity in their lives. Dr. KaNisha L. Hall confronts this way of thinking head on, while offering irrefutable strategies to creating a consistently highly pleasurable sexual experience.

3.“Sexual Health:” “Sexual Health” educates audience members with strategies for creating and maintaining optimal sexual health. Attendees will leave with an awareness of how to be proactive when it comes to sexual health and intuitive with their bodies.

4.”A Sex Positive Practice:” Dr Hall has specific lecture series designed for physicians, allied healthcare professionals, and mental health practitioners in various settings of practice to develop care plans for sexual health.

Request Dr. Kanisha L. Hall’s appearance at your upcoming event or workshop here. Keep up with her at or via social media on Facebook and Instagram!   Sex After is available on Get your copy today!

Sex After Dr Kanisha L Hall

“Ok Beloved, This book is my ode to womanhood. Male or Female you were birthed of a woman and that alone is to be celebrated. This book is NOT erotica. It IS sexual awareness and sexual health. I have been inspired by all the stronger wonderful women who raised me, especially my mother!”  -Dr. Kanisha L. Hall